Perinatal mental health is so often not talked about during pregnancy. This leaves mums afraid to talk about how they’re really feeling when they have their baby. Pregnancy, birth and how we feel when we have a child does not automatically bring joy and bonding. Many mums and families feel painfully alone and ashamed when they feel that they are struggling in any way. There is often a stigma within services and families about mental health and pregnancy. Even when mental health difficulties are accepted momentarily, mums and families are quickly expected to ‘pull themselves together’ and get on with…


The past often holds so much shame or hurt for many people. Sometimes we blame ourselves for things when we were unable to make sense of what was happening at the time. In the past you may have been trying to survive and make your way through so much confusion and pain. You did the best that you could at the time, in the circumstances that you were in, with the information you had. Your past doesn’t define you at all, the things which happened to you were not your fault and you had no way of knowing how to change things or even how to escape the things you were going through. The past can propel you forwards to change things, to grow, to heal and to empathise with yourself and others.

Take care of yourselves everyone


Empathy can be a bridge and a connection with those who are hurting, feeling isolated and disconnected from the world around them. Holding out a hand and offering empathy often gives hope when all feels hopeless and helpless. It can give back some empowerment to a person when they feel trampled on and broken inside. Empathy lets a person know that they have been heard and that another human being has understood, feels their pain with them and cares.

It’s also important to remember that when a person has never been shown empathy and has never experienced care, kindness, acceptance…


Today, we’re also thinking about the women and young girls who don’t experience motherhood as something to celebrate. Sometimes motherhood is not a choice and is forced upon a woman or young girl. This may happen in domestic violence where pregnancy is used to keep the woman trapped in an abusive relationship and unable to go out into the outside world. A woman or young girl may also be raped and become pregnant through no choice of their own. Young girls in many countries are often forced into marriage at a young age and become mother’s when they really need…


Mother’s Day isn’t always a happy time for everyone

Mother’s Day may remind us of our grief for the kindest, closest, most understanding, loving person we have ever known. Mother’s Day may bring back memories which we hide inside because they remind us of the constant ache and emptiness we now feel inside without our mum Our grief may be new or many years may have passed since we lost our mum. No matter how our lives move forwards, it often doesn’t feel the same without our mum.

Mother’s Day may also remind us of the many losses we have…


Sending love to anyone who is struggling with feeling suicidal at this time. Feeling suicidal is often not spoken about and hidden away. People who feel suicidal may feel that they won’t be believed, that their feelings will be minimised or that they will be made to feel ashamed for feeling so low. We’re very aware that the pain of feeling suicidal can be overwhelming and crushing inside. It can feel like a heavy weight which we’re carrying around with us. We might begin to feel suicidal when we feel completely trapped and without hope that anything can get better…


New Year is often a time of happiness. It’s a time for new beginnings, for hope, starting over again. new year resolutions and looking forwards to adventures to come. This year may feel very different for a lot of us. There is so much sadness, anxiety, hurt, loss, exhaustion. loneliness. trauma and a sense of not feeling safe in the world. Many of us are grieving for people we have lost and don’t feel like celebrating. Others are grieving for things we have not been able to do this year as well as all the goals and dreams we weren’t…


Being a healthy weight doesn’t mean that you feel okay on the inside or that you feel okay about yourself or eating. It also doesn’t mean that the underlying issues which triggered your eating disorder have been resolved. It can take a long time to fully heal from an eating disorder. During this time your weight may go up and down and how you feel about yourself and your eating disorder may change from day to day depending on the other challenges you are facing in life in addition to the eating disorder. Anyone can have a difficulty with their relationship with food, a person suffering from an eating disorder doesn’t have to look a certain way and often will have a big smile on their face when they’re really hurting inside.


It can feel really hard for people to put into words the things which prevent them from showing themselves some love and kindness and that’s absolutely okay. Sometimes we can find it really difficult to show ourselves love and care because we simply don’t have time for ourselves in our busy lives. We may also feel that it’s always good to be kind to others, but selfish to be kind to ourselves and to pay attention to ourselves. Loving ourselves and showing ourselves kindness may leave us feeling guilty or we may criticised by others for doing something for ourselves…


Grief is a very personal journey, it’s not something which we can force to happen. When you are grieving, it is important to give yourself the time and space to honour your feelings.

If you are struggling through the days and trying not to let others know how you are feeling, it is important to give yourself the time and space to allow feelings to come to the surface if you feel that you want them to. Sometimes the only way to cope and survive is to push your feelings down and carry on and that’s okay. If you want…

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